PRINCIPLE OF YOUR POSITIVE INTENTIONS:
BEHIND ALL OF OUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, AND ACTIONS, WE ALWAYS HAVE BENEFICIAL POSITIVE INTENTIONS (EVEN THOUGH WE MAY SOMETIMES USE UNSKILLFUL WAYS TO ACHIEVE THEM).
DEFINITION OF POSITIVE INTENTION: THE INTERNAL EXPERIENCE YOU REALLY WANT IN A PARTICULAR SITUATION BEHIND THE SURFACE DEMAND OR DESIRE.
FORMULATING POSITIVE INTENTIONS:
My positive intention is to see myself as, OR hear inside that I’m, OR to feel.....
(internal experience)........................................
POSSIBLE POSITIVE INTENTIONS: Accepted , appreciated, acknowledged, attractive, calm, competent, confident, fun-loving, humorous, important, independent, intelligent, joyful, lovable, loved, loving, nurtured, relaxed, safe, secure, sexual, sexy, strong, supported, valuable, valued, worthwhile, worthy, and hundreds more!
In the Science of Happiness, your positive intention is the internal experience that you really want in a particular situation underneath the surface desire. It is basically an image, thought, or feeling you want to have. Formulating your positive intention is simple. Here are the two guidelines we use for effectively uncovering beneficial positive intentions:
1. Make it beneficial and positive: State what you want – not what you don’t want.
Ex: My p.i. is to feel happy, rather than, My p.i. is to not feel sad.
2. Make it identify a desired internal state:
Ex: How do i want to see myself?
What do i want to hear inside?
How do i want to feel?
Begin to notice positive intentions behind everything people do. The problem is not bad people – its unskilful programming. We can thus love everyone unconditionally and simultaneously dislike (or even try to block) the unskilful ways they are programmed to use in achieving their positive intentions! Our P.I. tune us in to the basic goodness of everyone on earth!
How to pinpoint addictive demands:
This “Pinpointing Addictive Demands” Form is designed to help you reinforce your willingness to take responsibility for your experience. It helps you avoid the error of blaming people and situations around you for your separating emotions. How often have you said,: “You make me angry”, when it is always your own programming that is making you angry?
PINPOINTING ADDICTIVE DEMANDS
I CREATE THE EXPERIENCE OF .............................................(separating emotions)
BECAUSE MY PROGRAMMING DEMANDS THAT....................................................
(formulate precisely what you want)
EX: I create the experience of anxiety and worry because my programming demands that Sam and Jane say they like my new haircut.
I create the experience of loneliness and frustration because my programming demands that Bob return my phone call.
I create the experience of disappointment because my programming demands that Denise ask me to go to the concert.
Once you have reprogrammed your specific demand, your automatic emotional reactions become less intense or even nonexistent.
If you are still having trouble connecting with specific demand, please phone me.